More on helping a child manage his social dominance drive...The drive for affection supresses the social dominance drive. If you teach your child to be affectionate toward you he will be less oppositional toward you. When you punish your child with threats, spanking and yelling, you model achieving social dominance through aggression. The next time your child wants to be dominant, he will use the behavior you have shown him. A better strategy is to be a wise, all knowing teacher. Assert social dominance over your child by teaching him. By assuming the role of teacher you automatically become dominant without having to be verbally or physically aggressive.